tear themselves - rather, “break bread,” namely, that eaten at the funeral-feast (Deu 26:14; Job 42:11; Eze 24:17; Hos 9:4). “Bread” is to be supplied, as in Lam 4:4; compare “take” (food) (Gen 42:33).
give ... cup of consolation ... for ... father - It was the Oriental custom for friends to send viands and wine (the “cup of consolation”) to console relatives in mourning-feasts, for example, to children upon the death of a “father” or “mother.”